Not Without Fail

Aaron and I are firm believers of whatever you’ve been given to do, do it with all your might.  Ecclesiastes goes on to say; for there is no work or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave.  And that is where we all will end up one day!

This week, we have been having this exact conversation with Eli, our 9 almost 10-year-old son.  He is a very bright young man, wise beyond his years, but he allows distractions to come in that keep him from doing the very best that he can do.

I’m going to be very vulnerable for a moment.

Eli was diagnosed as ADHD a few years ago.  He isn’t hyper or out of control, he just has trouble focusing on the task at hand.  It doesn’t matter if it is a pencil dropping on the other side of the room, or footsteps of someone in the hall, it seems to be magnified to him.  Once he began being made fun of in school and coming home crying, we consulted with a trusted , Godly Doctor, and we put Eli on medicine.  At first we saw improvement in several areas of his life.  He was disciplined; focused, finishing tasks without us standing over him like a warden.  We continued to pray over him every day, as we would give him his medicine.  A year went by and before we knew it, Eli was down 2 pant sizes.  We could hardly recognize the once, quick-witted, fun loving boy he use to be.   It seemed that most days, he was in a trance.  The harder we prayed over him, he more distant he became.  We saw signs of depression begin to unfold, and that is when Aaron and I, with much prayer, begin to take him off these meds.  Now….  We are not coming against medicating for these conditions, but I am saying that we have decided to put forth the extra work with him to get results.  It isn’t easy to get him to focus, but with much prayer, anointing and patience, he is doing it!!!  Last grading period, he had all A’s and B’s.  He didn’t even accomplish that when he was on the medicine!

I will say that he has amazing teachers and administrators who have discovered a few other things to help him.  One is called the Irlen method.  Many children are misdiagnosed as ADHD who actually struggle with Irlen.  If reading causes headaches, or your child has trouble reading and writing, research Irlen.  Eli’s school prints all of his work on light blue paper, and he reads with a color overlay.  It soothes his eyes and tells his brain to calm down and focus.  With God and the knowledge he has given to his people, we are doing this thing…

Ok…  Back to my story…  Homework time is always fun at our house.  We somewhat have to continue to tell Eli to focus, get back on task.  We can’t have any distractions going while he is working on it.  So we begin to tell him that as long as we see him giving 100%, we can handle the outcome.  This was the job he has been given for this season, and he must do it with all his might!  We talk a lot about discipline and self-control, using wisdom and building his character.  Instead of allowing him to say “ He Cant”, we continually tell him “You Can!”

Last night after getting homework finished and dinner cleaned up, we decided to go to the park.  We had roughly 30 min to go play before bath time.

All 3 of our children love the park.  They swing until they can’t pump their legs anymore.  They run until they are exhausted.  There is the occasional ‘Brother/Sister” argument, but we allow them to get it all out!

Before we left, everyone wanted to take a turn on the monkey bars.  Now these monkey bars aren’t like the good ole fashion ones like we use to play on.  They use to be straight across, with gripping on the bars.  Now they have these “New and improved” ones that are fancy shaped without any gripping on them.

So, Aaron helped Eva get across but holding her legs…  Ean did the same with Dad’s help.  It came Eli’s turn and he wouldn’t attempt it.  He was a bit reluctant to just step off the ladder and go for it.  We told him; “you can do it!”  But to no avail, he wouldn’t do it.

Eli and I are about the same height.  So I decided to climb up and show him that he could do anything he put his mind to!  You know…  Moms and Dads, we think we are invincible and can’t be stopped!  So I climb up…  And I start my journey of point proving, swing toward the 2nd bar, only to go flying in the air and land on my right shoulder, side and catching myself with my wrist.  Although I couldn’t admit it at the moment, I was in pain!  My kids scream; “MOMMY!!!”  Eva is crying, and all I could do was laugh uncontrollably even tho I was hurt.  I hear the voice of Eli, crying as he said; this is exactly why I don’t want to try this!  My point in case was a fail!  How do I turn this around?

After brushing myself off and making sure I could move my arm, I corner Eli and I say; remember how Daddy and I tell you that we aren’t afraid of failure as long as you try with all your might?  This is a perfect example of that!  I failed miserably, but at least I tried!

I limped over to the bench…  still hoping this point could be proven.  Within a few moments,  I watch Eli climb up on the ladder and attempt one last time to go across those bars.  He made it a few swings and dropped to the ground.  He came running to me and said; “I didn’t make it all the way, but I did try!”

We spent the rest of the evening laughing about the events that took place that night.  Ean had been busy playing one the slides and didn’t see me fall, but asked if I could do it again tomorrow so he would be able to watch.  LOL…  I don’t believe I’ll attempt it again any time soon, as I’m rather sore today.  But I imagine at some point, I will get back up there and try again…

I believe God looks at us and says; “ I know it looks scary, I know it looks like you’ll slip and fall, but try!”

Whatever we do, do it with all our might!  Now it doesn’t mean be stupid.  Not all are athletes, or singers, or preachers.  Not all are mountain climbers, or swimmers, or Einstein’s …  But whatever it is that you do, do it without fear of failing!  If you fall, get up and dust yourself off!  Try again!!!

A famous quote reads; Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail.

We fall down, We get back up!  Life will happen… And so will failure…  Don’t allow the failure to define you!  Don’t remain in it, rather be determined to better yourself for the next try!

21 Comments

  1. kathy
    Apr 24, 2014

    The only people who never fail are the people that never try. Failure is a sure part of success. :) Love the story.

    • Terese/tammy
      Apr 24, 2014

      so encouraging what a blessing and great lesson . i needed to hear this . God Bless your family

    • Amanda Crabb
      Apr 25, 2014

      That is the truth! The Story is still being laughed about… And I’m still feeling the effects of it! Love you!

  2. Belinda
    Apr 24, 2014

    Amanda I went through the same thing with Noah and ADHD and he was eventually diagnosed irlin as well. The school wouldn’t use color paper or print larger so I did it myself with a scanner and home printer. The color glasses were just too expensive. Now in high school it is all electronic and he has regressed terribly. However, not trying is not an option. I’m very proud of you for doing the monkey bars and I think you were “allowed” to fail so that Eli could see that there is no shame in not being able to do everything as long as you give it your best effort. You guys are great parents and you have very bright children. I’m proud of the woman and mother you have grown to be! Love you all so much! Aunt Belinda

    • Amanda Crabb
      Apr 25, 2014

      Love you Aunt Belinda… We are praying for Noah! I know it’s challenging, but you’re a great mom too! Keep hanging in there!

  3. Cindy
    Apr 24, 2014

    I really enjoy reading your blog. Even though I’m not a born again Christian (I know in my heart its where I should be) I still get inspiration from your words. You keep it real!

    • Amanda Crabb
      Apr 25, 2014

      Cindy, that is the greatest compliment I’ve ever received. Aaron and I both have decided that it is better to be real then to try to keep the appearance of being perfect! None of us are perfect… We all fall and come short of the Glory of God… But His grace is sufficient for All! We pray that your heart finds peace and rest in Him! Please don’t hesitate to ask if there is ever anything that we can pray with you about.
      Blessings to you!

  4. Patty
    Apr 24, 2014

    Amanda,
    Thank you so much for posting your story,your an answer to prayer. Now, I’m the one who’s going to be vulnerable for a moment. I am a Handicapped Single mom of a wonderful 8yr boy, who has been diaganosed with ADHD, and anger issues, due to personal issues. I am struggling with how to help him, I do not want him on the medications, because of the effects, but he seems to be getting worse as days go by. Please, I know your so very busy, but if you could spare a moment, and pray for God’s intervention for my son and I.. I would greatly appreciate it! Thanks so much, I love your and Aaron’s music, and your Testimony is truly an inspirtation! I hope and pray, God makes a way, for me to thank you one day in person.

    I pray for you and your whole family daily, for traveling mercies, blessings of abundance, and for lost souls to be saved. Have a Wonderful Day and God Bless!!

    • Amanda Crabb
      Apr 25, 2014

      Patty
      We have friends who’s children are on the medicine and it works great for them. We know there are certain cases that call for it. However, we have decided to follow more natural paths of dealing with it. #1… Lots of prayer and anointing with oil… #2… There are essential oils that are for specific calming tools. There is one called Cedar, Vetiver. and others…#3 talking it out… Getting to roots of issues. I think that there are things in todays society that are so overwhelming for our children. look at the amount of tv time, certain shows, electronics. We take communion often and pray and seek God for self control, discipline, and wisdom… We are praying for you and your son! We know it’s not easy, but these children are the greatest gifts that God could ever trust us with, and he is walking with us in everything we do. May the peace of God overtake you and your household. May patience go before you and behind you!

      Blessings!
      Amanda

  5. Becky
    Apr 24, 2014

    I love love love this blog!!! What an inspiration you are!!!

    • Amanda Crabb
      Apr 25, 2014

      Thank you Becky
      Somedays it’s amazing how God uses our chaotic lives to encourage someone else.

      Blessings to you!

  6. Diane Zamora
    Apr 24, 2014

    Truly a testimony of strength and enduring love
    Of parents and an example of our God’s amazing
    Love for us! He never fails us.. Being a parent you
    Pray for God to do his will in all our lives..to him
    Be honor and glory!

    • Amanda Crabb
      Apr 25, 2014

      Amen Diane

      He is so amazing to do everything he promises. His love never fails… He never gives up… We must run the race with endurance…

      Blessings
      Amanda

  7. Tracy Page
    Apr 25, 2014

    Good Word and Example…

    • Amanda Crabb
      Apr 25, 2014

      Thank you Tracy

      Great to see you last week!

  8. Bob Weber
    Apr 25, 2014

    Thank you! I needed that today.

    • Amanda Crabb
      Apr 25, 2014

      Keep enduring Bob…

      God will always give us strength to continue…

  9. Mary Bond
    Apr 25, 2014

    I have cerebal palasey and my ;parent use to tell me you never give up.

    • Amanda Crabb
      Apr 25, 2014

      Amen Mary

      No matter what life has given us to face, we must never give up! You are an inspiration to many ! Keep facing life head on!

      Peace and Blessings to you!
      Amanda

  10. nita
    Apr 27, 2014

    I’ve just read your blog thank you for sharing sometimes it’s hard to imagine your family with any problems it was very encouraging to me as well as a blessing.

  11. Roma R. Walker
    Apr 30, 2014

    Enjoyed your music so much today, especially the song “Going Home”. Struggling through life and it seems impossible, but with GOD all things are possible! Prayer changes things. And, it is hard to keep from being full of bitterness and hatred. But, sometimes forgiveness just takes time, and the help of GOD Himself! I can’t do life anymore, but I know that I can trust in GOD and try and hang on to HIS promises, because it is the only way I will ever make it thru to higher ground and peace. I have faced impossible many times before, and, somehow, I am still here—so it is not by might nor by power, but the spirit of GOD–and GOD alone is enough to do it. Appreciate your prayers.–Roma

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